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| 10 WAYS TO AVOID A DIVORCE HANGOVER |
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| STOP,
BREATH, AND THINK! ACT, DON'T REACT. MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS |
| To stop the turmoil, you need
to control your emotions. If you feel out of control,
get professional help. |
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| EXPLORE
THE PAST IN ORDER TO LEARN FROM IT. |
| Gain insight into your selection
process, expectations of marriage, and reasons for the
divorce. Ask, “What attracted me to this person?” |
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| RECOGNIZE
AND WORK THROUGH THE STAGES OF LOSS |
| Stages include: shock and
denial, bargaining, depression, anger, resignation, and
finally, acceptance. |
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GRIEVE THE LOSS. ALLOW YOURSELF TIME TO MOURN AND FEEL
THE PAIN |
| Divorce is devastating and
often results in major life changes. Recognize, grieve,
and finally accept the losses and changes that result
from divorce. |
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| EXPRESS
ANGER CONSTRUCTIVELY, NOT DESTRUCTIVELY |
| Anger takes the form of revenge,
rage, blame, violence, or feeling out of control. Anger
keeps you stuck in the past and connected to your ex. |
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| EMPOWER
YOURSELF BY REGAINING CONTROL OVER THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS |
| Do what you need to do to
regain control over your life. Get professional help,
go to school, learn new skill, go to support groups, and
nurture yourself. |
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| TURN
NEGATIVE ATTITUDES INTO POSITIVE ATTITUDES |
| Concentrate on what you have;
not on what you lost. |
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| REBUILD
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM. GET A LIFE. DO RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS. |
| Create an atmosphere of good
will and good faith. Take the high road whenever possible
to increase self-esteem. Hang out with healthy people
and learn from them. |
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| SET
REALISTIC GOALS FOR YOURSELF |
| Decide what you want and how
you will get there. Then, Just do it! |
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| REWARD
YOURSELF THROUGHOUT THE PROCESS |
| Choose healthy, constructive
rewards. You deserve it. Congratulate yourself for you
hard work. |
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